Its easy to choose an activity and then expect your child to do it. But these are your goals and may not be hers.

Try not to impose your goals, nor criticise if they are not met. Children get frustrated when adults encourage them to become independent but then object to their ways of doing things.

In everything you do, including the activities, your thought should be ‘What’s the minimum help I can give him to ensure he feels successful?’. Once he finds success his reliance on his own abilities will grow.

Look for every opportunity to reinforce good behaviour rather than nag at bad behaviour, however expect obedience and set a good example yourself.