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1. Feeling loved, without reservation, for what she is,
not simply for what she achieves.
2. Success in reaching goals he sets himself. A feeling
of accomplishment.
3. The positive encouragement he receives – particularly
from parents.
All too often children become what others expect. When parents'
negative expectations are telegraphed daily through attitude,
language and atmosphere, then those expectations become the child’s
limitations.
A child is not his actions – There’s a world
of difference between ‘You’re a bad boy’ and ‘I
love you but I don’t like what you did’. The first is
a negative label and the second provides the basic love and security
but make it clear you disapprove of the action.
Remain positive and use positive feedback. The child has no better
example on which to model themselves than you - the parent.
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